Friendship comes first:
You need to establish a friendship with each other from the very beginning. It may take months or years to be cemented, but it will last forever. Don’t listen to people who exhort you to get married just because your biological clock is ticking away or because you will need a companion when you grow old. Ignore emotional blackmailing such as ‘get settled so we (parents) can live in peace’ or to fulfill grandma’s wish. In India, marriages happen early in life, but companionship starts much later. Marriage is not a project you take up after retirement. Learn to be best friends with your spouse-to-be.
Sync or sink:
You have to work hard, be patient and positive to know and connect with your partner. Traditional matchmaking still revolves around horoscopes, MBA degrees and a huge bank balance. But the coming-of-age matchmaking is like syncing your smartphone with your computer. It is up to you to realise whether your needs, wants and virtues are in sync with each other or not. It is crucial that all your feelings be mutual and transparent. This is something you can analyse over the dating or courtship period and decide. Get married if you both are on the same wavelength.